What would you tell your best friend?
As mentioned before, I’ve been on a wellness journey for more than 15 years. There have been some awesome times along the way, but there have also been some pretty dark seasons. One of the things I’ve learned is that you can’t separate what’s going on in your heart from what’s happening in your body because they are like two sides of the same coin. Did you know that your emotions are actually chemical reactions in the body?
If you’ve been following along, you know we started the series with five tips for supporting your physical body while your heart is on the mend. Now we’re going to shift our focus and look at five keys to supporting emotional wellness while the body is healing. (I hope you’re getting the idea that everything you do so support your body also supports your heart … and vice versa!)
In the video, I told you a story about something a college friend said to me that changed my life. If you haven’t watched it yet, please stop reading and check that out before reading the rest. It’s short but super important!
Here’s the first thing you MUST understand in order to heal: Your brain believes what you tell it. Your body hears and absorbs what you say. So speak to yourself in ways that are kind and gentle, the way you’d speak to someone you love. Be your best friend, not your worst enemy. There’s power in that!
If you really want to dig into this, I recommend you read one or both of these books: “Feelings Buried Alive Never Die” by Karol Truman and “Emotional Freedom” by Dr. Judith Orloff. (Both available on Amazon the last time I checked!)
Second, and this is a biggie, there’s no shame in having needs. Whether those needs are physical, emotional, spiritual, or a combination of all three, ask for help. If the first person you ask doesn’t listen, keep asking until you find a safe person who will enter into the healing process with you. Of course, ask God for help too! But, we’re made for community and also need advocates and encouragers whose smiles we can see and whose arms we can feel.
When we’re suffering, we’re very vulnerable. And we need people around us who will speak the truth over us in love. I wish we were sitting together in my living room so I could look into your eyes as I say this. Ann Voskamp says it this way:
“When Love’s got hold of you, there isn’t a lie in the universe that can pull you apart.”
Are you someone that’s held by love? Even if you feel abandoned by your family or friends or someone you really hoped would love you and make you feel complete, can I just tell you that you are still loved by God? He made you. He sees you. He hears you. And He loves you. Do you get that? Really? I was blessed to be raised in a loving home by parents who talked to me about God from an early age. But, it wasn’t until I was in my late 30s that I really began to understand that God loves me. Just because. Not based on my performance, my talent, my appearance, my skills, my status … none of that. He loves me because He made me and He decided to love me. And friend, that is true of you too. He’s crazy about you.
I’m so glad you’re still with me and I look forward to the sharing the 2nd key to emotional wellness in the next post!